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divorce

We divorced when I realised he didn't want to be a father.

I met my husband at a work event, American-born with Iranian parents. It was as though we spoke the same language. He understood my ways, and I learnt the American ways through him. He was privileged and seemed to know everything about anything.

child of divorce

I needed him to be my daddy, not his.

With daddy in another city, my brother and I got to fly as unaccompanied minors- I loved it, the tags around our necks, the air stewardesses making a fuss of us, and then turning up to his home and enjoying the lack of rules, the lack of healthy food and the unrestricted bedtime.

Couples coaching

Matthew Pruen - Part II

Divorce can be traumatic, the death of a dream once created during the high of falling in love is now painful and unbearable. This trauma is no different from a bereavement, and with it comes the perceived threat of survival.

love

I found my wife interesting at first sight.

I was nearing 40 and I had already dated enough women to know what wasn't right for me and I knew what I wanted for my future.

Legal Insights Featured

Divorce is a baptism of fire

People can't understand divorce until they have to go through it, and when they do, it's an absolute baptism of fire. Dante's Inferno.

Forensic accountant

Accountants & Divorce in the UK.

We all hear stories about someone's ex hiding money or assets - this is illegal.

Divorcing a CEO

Are you divorcing a CEO or a Multi-Millionaire in the UK?

Women turn up feeling shame, regret, and embarrassed that they have let things slide or have very little knowledge of the finances. They are incredibly fearful of the future.

Valentines Day

Re-design your Valentine's Day.

Divorce awakens a spectrum of emotions that can leave you feeling out of control and somewhat irrational. A reminder of what was, even if you called it quits. It can be even more challenging when your ex appears to have swiftly moved on.

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My father used me to have contact with my mother.

I learnt to sit quietly, not make a nuisance of myself and daydream. I went from being very bright and curious to having 'learning issues'. Society was cruel, and I was punished for having divorced parents.

Relationships

Matthew Pruen, Relationship Coach

When we start to see aspects that don't fit with the perfect person we fell in love with, it can feel like betrayal.

Court Advocate

Divorce and Separation Coach- Caron Kipping.

a person continuously adjusts themself to suit their spouse and as time passes by, their sense of self has faded away.

child of divorce

This was my Christmas.

Christmas marketing reminding me that my life was already a failure, that I was an outcast from societal norms. One celebrated the idea of Christmas and the other thought it was nonsense.

emotional abuse

He is not the man I married.

No longer telling her she hadn't achieved anything in her life, he started to assure her she was a crap mother. He began to undermine every single decision she made.

divorce coach

My divorce changed my career.

Sara wrongly expected he would want a quick and easy divorce, considering his betrayal and a baby on the way.

Psychological Abuse

This is my future, try me.

We did attempt therapy and when I raised the topic of his affairs he laughed and assured the therapist he had left no evidence.

divorce

My ex-wife hated my ambition.

We tried multiple therapists, but she wouldn't see her role in the demise of us. She focused on every minute detail of what I didn't do, she was a pit bull with her anger and sensitive to everything.

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You're not imagining it, trust yourself.

Leaving an abusive relationship takes careful planning, logistics, and support. Without that support and protection, the abused often return, or worse.

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Free Divorce Advice and Support from The exExperts

Two best friends, two cheating husbands, two very different divorce experiences; one easy and one that took four years. They quickly learnt how hard it was to navigate and created The ExExperts.

childhood abuse Featured

Divorce shattered my youth.

The psychologist had shared my private sessions with Mum, who weaponised my private struggles to paint Dad as an abuser!

abusive mother

Divorce took a chunk out of me

I hated going to my dad and I dreaded coming home to my mum. Neither home was emotionally safe for me,

communication breakdown

The Timing was Right until it wasn't.

My children have suffered and continue to suffer and it hurts me that I can't shield them from this madness. Each one has reacted differently and at different times

gambling addiction

The cost of gambling is always more than money.

‘I am a gambler, I have an addiction, I have hurt the people I love, I have stolen and I have paid for all of it financially and today I am still paying emotionally for my actions. Vanessa had a right to be hurt and angry, but the kids did not deserve the pain and anger she pushed upon them.’

Finances and divorce

A financial audit before a divorce is invaluable.

When you are the person paying child support, alimony, mortgage/rent, the idea of meeting a financial advisor can seem ridiculous.

lost love

We were crazy in love for 7 years, and then we weren't.

Never ever send angry text messages. Ever.

Relationships

Dating after divorce? I ask Barry Selby why he thinks we need a relationship coach.

If you are looking for the physical only- great, but if you want more, then consider enjoying a few dates before sex.